This section is from the book "Hill's Manual Of Social And Business Forms: A Guide To Correct Writing", by Thos. E. Hill. Also available from Amazon: Hill's Manual Of Social And Business Forms: The How-To-Do-Everything Book Of Victorian America.
howing the Means by which People are Gracefully and Easily
Introduced to One Another. Pleasant Acquaintance
Made, Resulting often in Lasting Friendship.
HERE are various forms of introduction to be used, each depending on particular circumstances. Thus, when introducing a gentleman to a lady, the party introducing them will say, bowing to each as the name of each is pronounced, "Miss Williamson, allow me to introduce to you my friend Mr. Grant; Mr. Grant, Miss Williamson. "
Some prefer the word "present" instead of the word "introduce." The choice of words is not-material. The form is all that is essential.
Of two gentlemen being introduced, one of whom is more eminent in position, look first at the elder or superior, with a slight bow, saying, "Mr. Dunham, I make you acquainted with
Mr. Stevens; Mr. Stevens, Mr. Dunham."
The last clause, repeating the names, "Mr Stevens, Mr. Dunham," may be justly regarded as a useless formality, and is not necessary unless for the purpose of making the names more distinct by their repetition.
Persons being introduced have an opportunity for conversation, and are immediately set at ease by the person introducing giving the place of residence and the business of each, with the introduction, thus: "Mr. Snow, allow me to make you acquainted with Mr. Burton. Mr. Burton is extensively engaged in mining in Colorado. Mr. Snow is one of our lawyers in this city." He may still continue, if he wishes to aid those whom he is introducing, by saying, "Mr. Burton comes East for the purpose of disposing of mining stock to some of our capitalists, and it is possible, Mr. Snow, that with your large acquaintance you can give him some information that will aid him." Such an introduction will immediately lead to a general conversation between the parties, and the person having introduced them can then retire if he so desires.
It is always gratifying to any one to be highly esteemed, hence you will confer pleasure by always conveying as favorable an impression as possible when giving the introduction.
Always apply the titles when making introductions, where the persons are entitled to the same, as Honorable, Reverend, Professor, etc. Thus, in introducing a clergyman to a member of the legislature, it is etiquette to say: " Mr. Shelden, permit me to present to you the Reverend Mr. Wing." Addressing Mr. Shelden, he says: "Mr. Wing is the pastor of the First Presbyterian church at Troy, New York. " Addressing Mr. Wing, he continues: "Mr. Shelden is at present our representative in the State Legislature, and author of the ' Shelden Letters ' which you have so admired. "
Introduction On The Street
If there are many introductions to be made, the simple words, "Mr. Smith, Mr. Jones," will serve the purpose. Mr. Smith and Mr. Jones will then take up the weather or some other topic, and proceed with their conversation. A v,ery proper reply for either party to make when introduced is, "I am glad to meet you," or, "I am happy to make your acquaintance."
If several persons are introduced to one, mention the name of the single individual but once, as follows: "Mr. Belden, allow me to introduce Mr. Maynard, Mr. Thompson, Miss Hayward, Mrs. Rice, Mr. Harmon, Mr. Brown," bowing to each as the name is mentioned.
When introducing a couple that may be somewhat diffident, the parties will be materially aided in becoming sociable and feeling at ease, by a very full introduction, thus: "Miss Kennicott, allow me to present to you my friend Miss Swift. Miss Kennicott is from the far-famed city of New Haven, Connecticut; and, upon the close of her visit here, is going to California for a ■visit of a year. Miss Swift is from Buffalo, New York, and is attending Hopedale Seminary in this city."