Many of our readers may be visiting Paris, and to such persons the following hints will be useful:
Avoid all extravagance and mannerism, and not be over-timid at the outset.
Be discreet and sparing of your words.
Awkwardness is a great misfortune, but it is not an unpardonable fault.
To deserve the reputation of moving in good society, something more is requisite than the avoidance of blunt rudeness.
Strictly keep to your engagements.
Punctuality is the essence of royal politeness.
Too much attention cannot be paid to the arrangements of the toilet.
A man is often judged by his appearance, and seldom incorrectly.
A neat exterior, equally tree from extravagance and poverty, almost always proclaims a right-minded man.
To dress appropriately, and with good taste, is to respect yourself and others.
A black coat and trowsers are indispensable for a visit of ceremony, an entertainment, or a ball.
The white or black waistcoat is equally proper in these cases.
The hand should always be gloved.
A well-bred man always wears yellow kids in dancing. [So says our Parisian authority: we take exception, however, to the yellow - a tint is preferable to a decided colour!]
A person of distinction is always known by the fineness of his linen, and by the nicety of his hat, gloves, and boots. [Rather read: fine linen, and a good hat, gloves, and boots, are evidences of the highest taste in dress.]
A gentleman walking should always wear gloves, this being one of the characteristics of good breeding.
Upon public and Slate occasions officers should appear in uniform.
Ladies dresses should be chosen so as to produce an agreeable harmony.
Never put on a dark-coloured bonnet with a light spring costume.
Avoid uniting colours which will fmggest an epigram; such as a straw-coloured dress with a green bonnet.
The arrangement of the hair is most important,
Bands are becoming to faces of a Grecian caste.
Ringlets better suit lively and expressive heads.
Whatever be your style of face, avoid an excess of lace, and let flowers be few and choice.
In a married woman a richer style of ornament is admissible.
Costly elegance for her - for the young girl, a style of modest simplicity.
The most elegant dress loses its character if it is.not worn with grace.
Young girls have often an air of constraint, and their dress seems to par take of their want of case.
In speaking of her toilet, a woman should not convey the idea that her whole skill consists in adjusting tastefully some trifling ornaments.
A simple style of dress is an indication of modesty.
The cleanliness of the system generally, and of bodily apparel, pertains to Health, and will be treated of under this head.
There is considerable art in using this accessory of dress and comfort.
Avoid extreme patterns, styles, and colours.
Never be without a handkerchief.
Hold it freely in the hand, and do not roll it into a ball. Hold it by the centre, and let the corners form a fanlike expansion.
Avoid using it too much. With some persons the habit becomes troublesome and unpleasant.
Friendship calls should be made in the forenoon, and require neatness, without costliness of dress.
Calls to give invitations to dinner-parties, or balls, should be very short, and should be paid in the afternoon.
Visits of condolence require a grave style of dress.
A formal visit should never be made before noon. If a second visitor is an nounced, it will be proper for you to retire, unless you are very intimate, both with the host and the visitor announced; unless, indeed, the host expresses a wish for you to remain
Visits after balls or parties should be made within a month.
In the latter, it is customary to enclose your card in an envelope, bearing the address outside. This may be sent by post, if you reside at a distance. But, in the neighbourhood, it is polite to send your servant, or to call. In the latter case a corner should be turned down.
Scrape you shoes and use the mat. Never appear in a drawing-room with mud on your boots.
When a new visitor enters a drawing-room, if it be a gentleman the ladies bow slightly; if a lady, the guests rise.
Hold your hat in your hand, unless requested to place it down. Then lay it beside you.
The last arrival in a drawing-room takes a seat left vacant near the mistress of the house.
A lady is not required to rise on receiving a gentleman, nor to accompany him to the door.
When your visitor retires, ring the bell for the servant. You may then accompany your guest as far towards the door as the circumstances of your friendship seem to demand.
Request the servant, during the visit of guests, to be ready to attend to the door the moment the bell rings.
When you introduce a person pronounce the name distinctly, and say whatever you can to make the introduction agreeable. Such as "an old and valued friend," a "school-fellow of mine," "an old acquaintance of our family."
Never stare about you in a room as if you were taking stock.
The gloves should not be removed during a visit.
Be hearty in your reception of guests. And where you see much diffidence, assist the stranger to throw it off.
A lady does not put her address on her visiting card. (See 474 and 2345.)