This section of the book is from the "Household Companion: The Home Book Of Etiquette" book.
In making the first call of the season, a lady leaves with her own, her husband's card, and also those of her sons and daughters. After a dinner party, or other special entertainment, a lady leaves her husband's card with her own.
A married lady, in calling upon another married lady, should leave one of her own cards and two of her husband's one of the latter being for the wife and one for the husband. If the lady called on has a daughter in society, the visitor should leave two of her own cards and three of her husband's. If there be another lady in the house besides the hostess two cards each of wife and husband should be left. When calling on a mother and daughters, a lady should leave two cards.
When paying a first call to several ladies not mother and daughters—a card should be left for each. When calling on the guest of a house, a card should be left for the hostess also, even if she is a stranger to the visitor. When calling at a hotel, it is allowable, and even desirable, to write the name of the person for whom the visit is intended upon the card, to avoid the chance of mistakes?; but this should never be done at a private residence. Cards should be left or sent on the day of a reception, if illness, a death in the family, or any other cause prevents the Acceptance of the invitation.
Cards should not be turned down at the corners, nor bent over at one end the fashion is now out of date.
In sending a first invitation to a person on whom the hostess has never called, cards should be enclosed with the invitation; but, if possible, a call should precede a first invitation.
After a proper interval of time, cards of condolence may be acknowledged (by sending mourning cards inclosed in an envelope).
No lady should use on her cards a suggestion of her husband's profession or titles of honor, such as " Mrs. General Brown," "Mrs. Dr. Smith," etc. Nor should she be addressed in this manner in conversation.
In case a person is going away, and likely to be absent for a length of time, it is proper to write p. p. c. on his or her card, and mail the same to acquaintances. The letters thus used signify " pour prendre congé," which translated from the French means " to take leave." Some write the English words out in full. Upon returning home your friends must first call upon you.
If death occurs in any household where one is in the habit of visiting, it is proper to leave cards upon the family within a month after.
When a gentleman calls after receiving hospitality, he should leave cards for all the
ladies of the family and one for the gentleman representing the head of the house, whether young or old.
When a lady is paying merely formal visits she need not necessarily ask whether the lady upon whom she is calling is at home, but can leave cards simply, unless she is under obligation for some courtesy, in which case she must ask whether the lady can receive her.
It is better to leave cards in the hall when entering an afternoon reception or tea, as the hostess might otherwise not remember your presence, and a card left in person would afterwards remind her that she was your debtor for a visit
for if you attend an afternoon reception it is equivalent to a call.
If you receive cards for a series of "at homes," and for some good reason cannot accept the invitation, send your card on the last day named.
A card left for you during your illness should be answered by a call as soon as your recovery will permit.
Should you send a card to a person who is ill, the bearer should always make a verbal inquiry as to your friend's condition of health.
In making calls upon an intimate friend it is not necessary to send your card in. The simple announcement of your name is sufficient. The use of a card always has an air of formality about it. Where persons are on cordial terms, and are visiting back and forth frequently, a card can very well be dispensed with.