When we experience suicidal urges, the need for us to understand what our soul wants us to know or do is incredibly urgent.

Something we are doing in our life, some way of living our life actually has us in danger of permanent damage.

Say it again, because this is so important. Suicidal thoughts or urges are an extreme danger if the cause is not found and changed. AND IT CAN BE FOUND AND IT CAN BE CHANGED.

1. Whose thoughts and feelings are these?

3. Has it all gone? Have all the suicidal thoughts and feelings gone? If they did not get less at all, then what you came up with was not the message that your soul is trying to give you. If it got less, but did not go altogether, then there is still something for you to know or do. Repeat the first two questions until every last tiny little bit of suicidal urge or thought has gone.

Maybe by now, just from Jess and Sam's stories, you're beginning to understand what's happening when there's a run of suicides amongst people who know each other. When we experience someone else's feelings as if they were our own, it is a message from our soul about something that we can know or do to help either them or ourselves or both.

When you get the "stuff" here in this book, you will realize that we are ALL connected to you, thus your state of mind is important to ALL of us. By definition suicidal thoughts are a life and death emergency, so don't stuff around with them! Get help.

Apart from asking The Questions and getting help, here's some other suggestions if you have had suicidal thoughts:

• You could start exploring what you believe in, your values (what's important to you), ethics (what YOU believe is right and wrong, not anyone else), attitudes, life philosophy, why bad things happen to good people, why good things seem to happen to "bad" people, your place in the world and anything else you can think of.

• Maybe you could think about doing some spiritual reading, joining some kind of group, meditation maybe, church maybe, whatever fits comfortably with you, who you are and who you want to be. You will be looking for ideas for change in beliefs, attitudes, values etc that suit YOU, now. You can find great ideas in the most unlikely places sometimes when you're keeping your eye out.

• Often when we are experiencing chronic depression, there is a chemical imbalance in the brain that has resulted from old buried emotions - from chronic pain (mental, emotional, physical or spiritual). Even for those of us who prefer not to resort to drugs, there is no shame in choosing drugs that enable you to work through the process of what needs changing in your life, if that's what you choose, in order to save your life.

I tell you again to make sure that you are hearing me. This is a dangerous emotion. Knowing when to seek help is a strength, not a weakness!

Remember, the feeling of pressure that we have, the feeling that we might explode from these emotions, from the pain of it all, is just the pressure of keeping the emotions buried.

When we bury this emotion, bury the suicidal urge itself, the result can be physical and immediate death or illness and disease unto death. Some illnesses are the result of a suicidal urge and can be healed by finding the source of the trauma and clearing it.