At the outset of this important subject, we stop to correct a gross, but widely received popular error. Every woman, every physician, nearly every married man will support us in what we are going to say, and will thank us for saying it.

It is in reference to passion in woman. A vulgar opinion prevails that they are creatures of like passions with our-selves; that they experience desires as ardent, and often as ungovernable, as those which lead to so much evil in our sex. Vicious writers, brutal and ignorant men. and some shame' less women combine to favor and extend this opinion.

Nothing is more utterly untrue. Only in very rare in-stances do women experience one tithe of the sexual feeling which is familiar to most men. Many of them are entirely frigid, and not even in marriage do they ever perceive any real desire. We have in numbers of instances been so informed by husbands, who regretted it, and were surprised at it.

Loose women, knowing that their business is increased if they feign the pleasure to be reciprocal, often give occasion for the opinion we are combating, in the minds of young and inexperienced men. As Mr. Acton well remarks: " There are many females who never feel any sexual excitement whatever; others again, to a limited degree, are capable of experiencing it. The best mothers, wives, and managers of households know little or nothing of the sexual pleasure. Love of home, children, and domestic duties are the only passions they feel. As a rule, the modest woman submits to her husband, but only to please him ; and, but for the desire of maternity, would far rather be relieved from his attentions."

This is doubly true of women during the periods when they are with child, and when they are nursing. The whole force of the economy at these times is taken up with providing sustenance for the new being, and there is no nervous power left to be wasted in barren pleasures. In those exceptionable cases where this does not hold good, every excitement is visited upon the child, and it has to suffer in health and growth for the unnatural appetite of the mother.

The above considerations, which all married men will do well to ponder, should lead them to a very temperate enforcement of their conjugal rights. They should be always considerate, and not so yield themselves to their passions as to sacrifice their love to the woman they have married. Let us here quote the words of Dr. Horatio R. Storer, of Boston, on these rights: "Restrained within due bounds as to frequency, they serve to give a charm to life, and to impart fresh courage for enduring its vicissitudes ; but to gain these, one single rule must be observed. It is this : That the husband compel his wife to do nothing that she herself does not freely assent to. A forced union is even worse than solitary vice. No true conjugal enjoyment can exist unless it is mutual. The true rule is to take only what is freely given."

In a similar strain speaks the distinguished old English divine, Jeremy Taylor, in his excellent "Rules and Exercise of Holy Living:" "Married people must be sure to observe the order of nature and the ends of God. He is an ill hus-band that uses his wife as a man treats a harlot, having no other end but pleasure. The pleasure should always be joined to one or another of these ends - with a desire of children, or to avoid fornication, or to lighten and ease the cares and sadnesses of household affairs, or to endear each other; but never with a purpose, either in act or desire, to separate the sensuality from these ends which hallow it. Married people must never force themselves into high and violent lusts with arts and misbecoming devices, but be restrained and temperate in the use of their lawful pleasures."

We cannot improve upon this admirable advice, so sound, and so fitly expressed, by one of the wisest and purest of men; nor, though other authorities are numerous enough to our hand, do we consider they are called for.

It is impossible, necessarily, to lay down any specific rules for the government of others in this particular; but we may state generally that no husband should force his wife to submit to him against her will, nor should he even ungently persuade her: and for himself, whenever he feels immediately after the act, or during the next day, any depression, or debility, or disturbance of the health, it is a certain sign that he is overtasking himself. Taking men on an average, we counsel them for their own sake, when in middle life and usual health, not to indulge more than once or twice a week, and in old age and feeble health (no matter if they do experience desire), by no means so often, or not at all.

There are certain periods when a complete cessation should be observed. One of these is during the monthly sickness of the woman, and for a day or two after that epoch. It is well known that among our American Indians at such times the squaws leave the lodge, and remain entirely segregated from the household; and among the Israelites the Mosaic law pronounces a woman unclean for a number of days after her periodical illness has ceased.

The origin of these customs, no doubt, was that observa-tion proved that intercourse at such periods leads to disease in the male ; and modern science, after having, as usual, denied for some time this ancient opinion, has at last proven its correctness. " It cannot be too often mentioned," says Dr. Alexander Stein, of New York, in a paper read before the Medical Journal Association of that city, February, 1870, "that venereal disease is not always the result of impure intercourse, but may arise from contact with a female during the existence of a discharge which is not specific, as, for instance, during menstruation." All other writers of note coincide with this view, and therefore the caution is necessary absolutely to abstain at such times.

During pregnancy and nursing, conjugal relations should be as few as possible. Some writers condemn them altogether, but this we consider an extravagance. They do no harm, providing that they neither on the one hand unduly excite the woman, nor on the other are repulsive to her.

In the former case they injure the growth of the foetus before birth and sometimes provoke a miscarriage, and after birth are quite sure to deteriorate the quality of the milk to the serious damage, perhaps, of the infant. If repulsive, they lead to domestic unhappiness, loss of mutual respect, and sometimes to violent nervous excitement on the part of the wife.

After a natural confinement, at least two full months should be allowed to elapse before the resumption of the marital relations, and if the labor has been an unusually severe or a complicated one, it is prudent to extend this interregnum yet another month.

During and after the change of life, it is also important to observe an unwonted moderation. During that period any unaccustomed excitement of this character may be followed by flooding, and other serious symptoms, while after the crisis has been passed, the sexual appetite itself should wholly or almost wholly disappear.

In what we have said it may be complained that we harp too constantly on one string - that we are forever repeating and urging moderation, temperance, restraint, self-denial - that if marriage is going to be one constant torment of Tantalus, with the beaker of pleasure ever filled and ever presented to the thirsty lips only to be whisked away again the next moment, leaving the ardent longings cruelly deceived, then that the charm of the condition is gone, and it is better and easier to deny one's self entirely than to irritate by half-indulgence.

Or it may be thrown up to us that all this counsel is useless because men will not be moderate in lust, and will not practise self-restraint in order to spare feelings which' they cannot understand, and a delicacy which they cannot appreciate, in a person over whom the law gives them, in this respect, an absolute power. Very well, we are prepared to enforce our advice with arguments drawn from another source.

We must counsel moderation not only as a moral and amiable trait, and as a bounden duty which man owes woman, but more than that, as an imperative obligation which every man owes himself. That he may know precisely what may befall him from a disregard of the precepts of temperance, we shall mention a few of